Single On Valentines Day?
It’s not all doom and gloom- at least you avoided the hassle and expense of gifts, dates and the pressure of coping with high expectations. Take heart that there are many more single women out there in a worse situation than you agonising over why it is that they still can’t get a boyfriend- that means it’s the perfect time for you to land your dream girl!
Here’s how to get started today:
1. Become a Better Man
Most men have grown up believing that money is the solution to any problems they are facing in their romantic lives. How wrong those men are! A woman will be infinitely more interested in a man who is well-read, cultured, independent, can cook, dance and has fascinating hobbies over a work-aholic who spends every last God given hour cooped up at the office squinting under the glare of artificial light at all hours. Perhaps endeavour to take a beginner’s salsa class. Try to imagine each woman as a talent scout, measuring up each guy she comes across against her list of requirements before deciding to let them in on her life: what can you bring to the table that other guys are lacking? Another advantage of this is that women you know already will begin to see positive changes in you and begin to feel more attracted to you when all you’re doing is going about improving yourself without any explicit intentions.
2. Don’t Get Hung-Up On One Girl
Despite the musings of romantic novelists and Hollywood directors, by concentrating all of your efforts on winning over that one special girl you are actively decreasing the chances of her falling for you. This is surprising because we are taught that the more you work hard at attaining something- a better education, wealth, a better body at the gym- the more likely your chances of getting it. When you open up totally to a woman and devote to her your every ounce of attention to her being you stopped being a challenge long ago and are incredibly unattractive. Avoid this by busying yourself and keeping your options open. Perhaps call her but don’t ask her out on a date or keep a relationship that started with a sexually charged interaction strictly platonic so leaving it up to her to take things beyond a ‘friendship’ and into the bedroom.
3. Approach, Approach, Approach
How capable are you of approaching women when you’re out? Are you able to walk up to the most beautiful girl in the venue without first resorting to sinking a pint or four for Dutch Courage? A trait of men who are successful with women is a lack of hesitation when it comes to expressing interest in women they would like to get to know.
Set yourself a mission on nights out, and during the day follow a rule that you’ll start a conversation with every woman you find attractive. Don’t worry yourself about finding something spontaneous to say but rather just concentrate on starting an interaction of sorts.
4. Stay One Step Ahead
If you find yourself out on a date with a girl and can sense that things are going exactly as planned- she’s glancing at her watch every few minutes wishing it to end or taking calls on her mobile- then be sure to be the one to deliver the “Let’s just be friends” line first. This way you can amicably go your separate ways so leaving the option open that she can become a part in your social circle. Remember that most attractive women have attractive female friends and her friends will be inclined to be sociable and accepting of you if you’re a friend of their friend. Group psychology dictates that as soon as one girl in a network finds you attractive- the others soon will too!
5. Try Every Avenue
Try your hand at speed dating which is quickly becoming very popular. How about online dating sites? Speed dating is fantastic practice for getting onto comfortable ground with a woman who you know is single, seeking and has little option but to talk to you if only for a few minutes.
6. Be In The Right Place At The Right Time
By sitting at home it is unlikely that you’ll meet any attractive women. Commit to venturing out and practicing approaching women at night in bars or nightclubs.
You could join a gym, take up an evening class (yoga, cooking, salsa, French etc.) or hang out in a coffee shop. In these environments you get the chance to familiarise yourself with regulars and staff over time and this will make it easier for you to make a move.
Treat this like a game or social experiment- you do not fail if you receive negative feedback- you simply have learned another lesson that will aid you in your progress.
Richard La Ruina
http://www.articlesbase.com/dating-articles/single-on-valentines-day-103423.html
March 31st, 2009 at 11:03 pm
How do you deal with being single on Valentines day and how would spend your day?
I think this is the very first time all of my sisters are single on Valentines day. Two of them just got out of long serious relationships and I know they'll be hurting. How would you deal and what would you choose to do with your day instead?
April 1st, 2009 at 4:05 am
Get drunk!
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:07 am
remember my ex and it really makes me happy to be on my own
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:09 am
dont spend the day mopeing and do somthing fun
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:11 am
Valentines day? Whoopy-doo. It is just another ordinary day, no big deal.
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:13 am
You have like two and a half weeks, get something going.
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:15 am
do you have any single girl friends? If so, you should all get together and go bowling, or see a movie…have a girls day! It not bad to be single on VDay at all!! You taking time to yourself!
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:17 am
You could call me and we could be lonely together =p
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:19 am
i take all the money i saved out of my wallet..and i use it to buy booze for lonely women at the bar….and i still get laid
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:21 am
Ummm…..
Valentine's Day is a day basically invented by businesses to make money, so maybe you could keep that in mind.
It doesn't actually mean anything.
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:23 am
Ummm…I don't know I guess I would just go to work
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:25 am
hm my older sister got out of a 4 year relationship last year
on V day, she went out shopping, went to a spa, got a new haircut and ate a lot of Godiva Chocolate lol
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:27 am
I think of all the girls who were hot in high school and college and were stuck up and now are washed-up old hags.
I am going to a singles bar to pick up some lonely babe and have some no-strings attached fun.
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:29 am
Support each other! Give each other v day gifts :3 Celebrate V day as a day of universal love rather than romantic love.
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:31 am
girls night out! lol
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:33 am
its always been just another day for me. i think every day should be valentine's day.
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:35 am
eat lots of chocolate and go shopping (for men that is)
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:37 am
i think S. Valentine's Day for singles is just like any other day..as it will fall on saturday, you could go shopping if you want…
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:39 am
eat a gallon of ice cream && watch a couple scary movies =]
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:41 am
it's just another day. You and your sisters should have a girl day..that would probably be a lot more fun anyway!
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:43 am
My best friend, my sister, and myself were all single one year…
We took a trip to a spa and pampered ourselves all day long.
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:45 am
i would spend the day touching myself because someone has to do it
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:47 am
I just split up with my boyfriend and i will be in dublin for a long wekend getting drunk on valentines day, not very girly but im good at it lol
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:49 am
Get ur girls together, have some drinks, and go to a club or bar, and have a one night stand.. it will make u feel better that night atleast.. just be safe!!
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:51 am
you gotta party. its just like any other day, just have a good time, go out with your friends
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:53 am
I would invite over all of my other single girl friends and either just have like a movie night and order pizza and eat ice cream, or all get together and go out to eat someplace nice; dress up and make themselves look pretty so they can feel good about themselves!
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:55 am
Ill be single this year so my best friend and I (who is also single) are going to have a fancy dinner and be each others' Valentine!
Just because you don't have a man doesnt mean you cant be with someone who you care about and celebrate!
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:57 am
do something fun
who cares if your single
live life
have fun
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April 1st, 2009 at 4:59 am
Sounds like this would be a g reat time to lean on each other and make it a special day for your sisters…plan a special dinner at one house or all of you go out to dinner together…sharing a single rose with each sister when you do.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:01 am
Valentines day is just a regular day… even when Im in a relationship I dont celebrate it…. why? whats the point of it? I celebrate love everyday… why should you have one day a year just for love? its stupid and pointless…
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:03 am
its just valentines day, not finding your soulmate. My bf and i spent the past 2 valentines apart cuz its not really that big of a deal. Department stores try to make it a big deal with all their teddy bears and stuff, its just another day.
This year i will be cleaning the house and helping him redo the bathroom floor.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:05 am
I have always been single on vilantine's days so i know how you feel
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:07 am
Suck it up. It's a commercialised "holiday" made for sappy losers. And hallmark.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:09 am
I just try my hardest to treat it as a normal day really and don't think bout it. I think it a stupid day personally as it's not a day everyone can celebrate!
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:11 am
I've been single for 5 years. No matter how hard I try to think of it as just another day, it sucks to see everyone get flowers and presents.
Why don't you guys do something like a secret cupid. Everyone put their name in a hat, pull a name, and get something really nice for that sister. Go out to eat that night together and exchange gifts.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:13 am
The three of you should definately go out together and eat a nice dinner.
Valentines day is for love..not just couples!!! Remember back in grade school everyone got a cheesy little card in your class even if it was the geek who picks his nose??? lol
Share good times and love with your sisters instead. Eat some great Italian food!
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:15 am
who cares….its a day hallmark invented. Personally, I usually forget its valentines day cuz my birthday is on the same day.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:17 am
When I was single, I spend Valentines celebrating all the people I loved instead of dwelling on a man I didn't have. I bought gifts for my family and friends and partied with all my other single friends. It was great.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:19 am
They might want to send themselves a box of Chocolates and some Roses. Then resolve to enjoy both.
What's wrong with being single?
Obviously their relationships were not working out. Now they are free to look for a better fit.
All of your single sisters might find it healthy and fun to get together and go to museums, take long walks, treat themselves to dinners out, or travel.
Why not just enjoy being single for awhile?
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:21 am
TREAT YOURSELF TO SOME CHOCOLATE AND DINNER AND A MOVIE. YOU HAVE TO LEARN TO BE ALONE. YOU SHOULD BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF. LOVE YOURSELF. HAVE A PRIVATE PARTY. DONT INVITE NO ONE BUT YOU YOUR ANGELS AND HAVE AGOOD TIME. CELEBREATE THE WOMEN YOU HAVE BECOME.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:23 am
Spend it with people who love you the most,that's what I'm doing this year.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:25 am
I would get all of my sisters together and have a "pamper day". You don't have to have a significant other to celebrate Valentine's Day.Instead celebrate the love that you have for yourself and for life! Go to a spa or have a spa day at home. Get a manicure, pedicure and a massage or give each other one. Go out to a nice restaurant and happy hour. Go to the movies together. Give all of your sisters a single rose with a card attached saying "you are always loved". Just have a whole day of self love and happiness for life! Enjoy!
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:27 am
All good answers above – but IF this a real concern to you, send yourself a card and get a life.
OR, go on some appropriate singles site/blog and start a Valentines Exchange Group – better hurry.
Be careful what you ask for – you will probably get some weild-o's
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:29 am
i hate valentines day. its was created just for people to make money. and i hate it even more since i'm single now. plus its on a saturday 2. i'm getting drunk, the drunkest ever in my life and pray that the day goes by fast.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:31 am
Go to the movies! Why? because you are not going to be alone and the chances of meeting someone is also very very high because there is always that DUPREE that tags alone with couples because he is lonely too, or even a single male in your very same position so you might be lonely but not alone and single but ready to mingle by no means get drunk because a bar is the last place you want to be on Val. day because that's where all the losers hang out hoping to catch a stray Quickie. P.S Do not choose a romantic movie go for more of an action movie where there will be more men.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:33 am
Valentines day is considered single awareness day so you and your sisters need to get together go out and have fun. Be each others Valentine go get a 50 cent box of hearts and a rose give it to each other then go to dinner and see a movie a comedy or horror no love story. While at dinner talk about how sorry men are and how they are the dumbest sex in the world. By the end of the night you guys should feel a lot better about life. Remember the relationships they just got out of means those men where not the ones they were supposed to be with which means their soul mate will come just be patient and enjoy being single.
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lots of single Valentines days with my sisters after heart break. Was patient now i have my man.
April 1st, 2009 at 5:35 am
I would choose to celebrate sisterhood and girlhood instead…enjoy being single all of you and go out with your sisters and celebrate that you don't have to buy or recive any tacky gifts!!! Valentine's day is only a comercial day anyway it doesn't mean anything. Buy your sisters something that will make them laugh or just write them a little msg or how much they mean to you…and then enjoy eachother company by doing what you like best eg.dinner,or girly night in or hit the town!!!Have fun!!!
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:37 am
The best way to meet people is to have something better to do than being in a relationship. I've been a race car driver, I travel, I meet people, I'm sure to be as social as possible and life is good enough that I don't need a relationship to feel good about myself.
Everyone has had that relationship where they could've gotten married but the person wasn't for them. Think of spending Valentine's day single as a declaration of independence: "I'm the one in control of my life! Someday I'll meet someone *I* like, and then I'll decide to spend my time with them!"
The whole mindset you're talking about is dangerous. It'll lead you into relationships you don't really want just so you're not single.
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:39 am
Shoot go out and have some fun
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:41 am
my boyfriend went moved back to slovakia :..(
but i guess i'll just… go to school as usual and..when i come home…probably just go straight to bed.or talk on the phone with my friend!
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April 1st, 2009 at 5:43 am
I'm sorry to hear that. But, why don't you all get a room at a hotel downtown, and go out together. Get all dressed up! Really bring your inner Beyonce out!! Make sure you bring lots of movies, magazines, and ice cream.
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Experience.