Advanced Lessons Dance DVDs

Jazz Up Your Life With Tap Dance

29th April

Are you planning to learn tap dance? If your answer is yes then the DVD series having tap dance lessons is the perfect means available to learn to tap dance in a time saving manner. The most alluring feature of the tap dance DVD series is that it gives practical guidance to beginners in the tap dance. By opting to the tap dance DVD, one can learn the traditional dance steps of America from the very comforts of personal room.

The DVD series featuring tap dance video give a step by step guidance of how to get started and progress in the tap dance. The tap dance DVD series include exclusive features such as on-screen musical counts which allow the users to learn to tap dance at an extremely fast face. With the inclusion of feature such as split screen camera angles, this DVD series allow the users to check dance poses of instructor from all the sides.

The tap dance DVD series is perfect alternative for busy people having passion for tap dance but cannot attend tap dance classes due to lack of time. With the all new tap dance DVD series, the users can learn the tap dance whenever they get free time in office or at home. Tap dance DVD series serves the purpose of a fitness video by helping in maintaining the body weight of the users who are practicing tap dance via this DVD series.

The most alluring feature of the tap dance DVD Series is that the dance steps in it are narrated step by step by an instructor having sound expertise and skills in making the tap dance learning process easier for the users of the DVD. The tap dance video teaches tap dance in different levels such as basic level, intermediate level and level-3. Basic level is for beginners and intermediate level is for those who have some experience of tap dance. Level-3 of DVD series includes teaching the most famous tap dance steps to the users.

The main benefits of learning tap dance via tap dance DVD series include:

* The tap dance DVD series features tap dance steps in a clear and slow manner so that the users can recognize how to practice that particular step in tap dance
* The dance movements of the instructor in the tap dance DVD series can be viewed from varied angles i.e. from back and side so as to get into depth of how the instructor is performing the tap dance steps.
* The dance steps in the tap dance DVD series are repeated several times so as to make the user follow properly the moves in a particular tap dance step.
* The dance video in the tap dance DVD series includes “music-only” feature thereby excluding background noise which can distract the users mind.
* The navigation of the DVD series is user friendly and the user can directly jump onto one dance step to another.

The tap dance DVD series is exclusively made of state of the art technology so as to provide an excellent source of learning tap dance to the tap dance lovers. The manufacturers of the tap dance DVD series have made use of ProTools so as to provide advanced teaching methodology of tap dance to all its users. The tap dance DVD series is based on a region free format i.e. it can be provide assistance to both local and foreign audience in tap dance lessons. So, tap dance DVD series is an affordable alternative to tap dance schools so as to learn tap dance with an ease.

Eli Newsom

I’m interested in taking dance lessons and wanted to ask what ype I should take?

29th April

I’m a teenager who is interested in taking dance lessons.
I was thinking about take ballet, my mom says it’s a bit pricey and to think about taking dance lessons more.
Is it really pricey?
I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions in what type of dance I should take?

Ballet if the foundation for all types of dance. It develops your stamina, body strength, and flexibility. I highly recommend taking ballet if you want to get anywhere with your dancing. Jazz & lyrical are very fun classes, and they are very good for flexibility! Tap & Hiphop are also really awesome classes to take, but you probably won’t get as much out of them as you would from ballet or jazz. I personally love tap, but it is usually just a good, fun workout. Depending on what level you are at, how many classes your taking, and which dance studio you are taking at, classes may be very expensive. It pretty much comes down to what you like best.

Dancing to the Music a Great Fun Way to Keep Fit and Healthy

27th April

Dancing to the music is a great idea in shape and staying healthy. Done regularly, it may be a great form of exercise, it burn calories, improves coordination, builds endurance and most important, it is fun. Beyond that, dancing to the music is also less likely to be dull in comparison with other activities, because there are always new steps to learn and the music is motivation.

Most health clubs offer some types of dance exercise program or class. Sample a few types of classes to your positive style, and music teacher. Classes with a start and end dates are best if you want to be on equal level with other student. Do not expect as a pro in the first session. Part of the fun is learning new steps and be challenged to your body in new, unknown and possible ways.

Approach each class with with a positive image of the spirit and know that you improve your health and pleasure, not with each other to win a dance contest or as the best in the room. Some lessons are focused around the couples’ dances, as the ballroom. These lessons are a perfect opportunity with your boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse. If you do not have someone to the class with you, do not worry. Many classes will surprise you with a different partner every week. And that is an excellent way to meet new people.

You will probably have a favorite style of dancing to the music but do not forget to mix it up. A ballet class is to work your body other than hip-hop, Irish or jazz dance class, and disable the classes is the best way to the health benefits, while reducing the risk of damage from overuse same muscle groups.

Some dancing to the music lesson will focus on building the music stamina and strength, but dancing is usually heart. So extra strength in your week, so your muscles get stronger and healthy body.

If you are unable to join the classes, then you buy a volume of video CDs to learn a number of major steps. With steps to move guide, who can quickly learn the joy of dancing to the music tune. It will be fun and health until the next dance music. An online on the internet, you may find useful volume guide CDs.

With dancing to the music, you guide your body movement to the rhythmic tune of music. It is a joy of happiness run up your body in such a fun way. Help to build your body and mind to stay in good shape.

Check this out on the website and may of good help to you.

charles chan

Adding Music to Your Special Day

21st April

Music provides a beautiful, emotional element to your wedding and reception. Moreover, the music and songs you select will also help make your wedding uniquely your own. Here are some tips on how to enhance the different phases of your wedding with music.

You’ll most likely choose two different types of music for your ceremony and reception – softer, romantic music to be played or sung before, during, and after the ceremony, and entertaining or dancing music for the reception. In some cases, the same musicians are able to provide both. As an alternative, you might choose to have the church organist or soloist, or one set of musicians for the ceremony, and a band or entertaining DJ for your reception.

Should you wish to have music playing before the ceremony, instrumentals can establish an atmosphere for your guests and may include mood-setting pieces that your early-to-arrive guests can enjoy as they wait for the show to begin. For example, in traditional Jewish ceremonies, it is common to have a pre-ceremony reception or cocktail hour during which the bride and groom have separate chambers in which to greet guests, in addition to a common area where hors d’oeuvres and drinks are served. It is festive to have musicians and possibly a singer in the common area at this time to “warm up” the guests with some soft or lively music. Even chamber music wouldn’t be out of place.

For the ceremony, be sure to check with your site coordinator or officiant regarding any restrictions or limitations that might be in place on music selections. Some places of worship limit the music selections to whatever their own organist can play. However, there are numerous other options for your ceremony music, when allowed, including a harpist, violinist, string quartet, trumpeter, saxophonist, classical guitarist, keyboardist, flutist, and vocals or choir.

Your reception music can range from a refined background element during dinner to music for dancing. For example, a string quartet, violin or harp is a polished backdrop for your celebration, while a rock band or twelve-piece orchestra will provide a wider range of lively tunes. If you and your fiancé are strong music aficionados, you may even opt for different groups of musicians or even a DJ alternating with a band that specializes in your favorite style(s) throughout the reception — whether it’s jazz, rap or pop. Your style choices can also reflect your ethnic heritage, such as Latin, Klezmer or Irish step. Remember that good bands and DJs book up early, so you’ll need to start researching your options from nine to 12 months in advance. And, of course, be sure you have the chance to hear them in action before you decide to hire them.

While a live band might seem like the ultimate in wedding reception entertainment, keep in mind that most won’t have the same range of selection that an established DJ will. There will also be “dead air” when the band takes their scheduled breaks, unless you make arrangements for something to be played during that time. If you opt for a DJ, make sure you choose one who is both experienced and fun and can play a variety of songs, from slower traditional to ‘50s to rock and roll to faster contemporary music for dancing.

If you’d like to give guests a performance they’ll always remember, consider staging a humorous dance and/or lip-sync number to a popular tune with your fiancé and perhaps a couple of members of the wedding party. Keep it tasteful — remember, this may show up on your wedding video! But it is your wedding, so it’s OK to have fun and let your hair down a little. And if you and your fiancé have taken dance lessons and are proud of what you can do, go on out there and strut your stuff!

Diana Valentine

Spain Insane

19th April



Elaine Emily T. Abonal

I was the team leader of a group of college students for one of the Institute for Foreign Study’s (IFS) semester break exchange program to Salamanca, Spain. I have never been to Europe before then and I am minoring in Spanish so needless to say, I was so excited and so ready to go! It was a dream come true! Being an exchange student and experiencing first hand a culture completely different from your own and away from the protective wings of your parents is one of the life-changing things that I would never have gotten if it weren’t for the programs like these.

Four years ago, I went to Appleton, Wisconsin for a whole year as a high school exchange student for a gap year. I can still say today that I am a much better person because of it. I gained life lessons that have helped me throughout college and I know will help me in the future. That experience also helped me be a good team leader or an “ate” to the other girls who have never been away for so long before. I was also living proof and a spokesperson to the parents in letting them know that they were making the right choice in letting go of their kids – even for a little while – so they can experience the world on their own.

Four words: Best. Sem. Break. Ever.

Everything was completely different in Spain. Everything was in Spanish (of course), they ate at the weirdest and latest times (lunch at 3 and dinner at 10!), there was public display of affection everywhere (which actually made for an interesting way to watch people – hah), the weather was almost close to freezing (remember, it was November!), they strictly obeyed the siesta (the town is dead for 3 hours) and then party like crazy during their fiestas (there’s no way anyone would go home at midnight – it only starts then). Salamanca is also known as a UNESCO World Heritage City and one of the most popular and most beautiful places to visit. I never cared much for architecture before, but there definitely was magic in the golden walls of Salamanca. There were students from all over the world and of course, being a majority of girls that we were, we definitely went loca seeing all those guapo Spanish boys, from the Universidad students, Prince Felipe of Spain (Yes!!! He was in Salamanca for the day and we were so lucky to see him!), Andre – that one Brazilian student in our school that all us Filipino girls loved, David Beckham during the Real Madrid game (Okay, he’s not Spanish, but still!), to even the chico that sold stamps in magazine stands. It was fun for us to get the attention that we did since we were the foreigners – like someone staring in your face, a non-Spanish university student saying that you were a 15 (“quince”) on the 1-10 belleza (beauty) level, and some good looking boy saying, “Hola guapa, que tal?” We took things in stride and just laughed at ourselves and what was going on because everything was different, and the Spanish just loved to live life. We were young and I don’t think there was a better time in our lives to be in Spain.

The first time I had desayuno (breakfast), I was shocked and said to myself, “That’s it?!” My host mom – Leonor – left a glass of orange juice, butter, and one piece of toast on the table for me. I realized that in Spain, they really don’t eat so much in the morning. After breakfast, I would walk for around fifteen minutes through the cold but sunny streets of Salamanca to get to Spanish class. Everyone walked in the morning – people going to work, grandparents doing their daily routine, parents dropping off their children to school, and hundreds of colegio and Universidad students rushing to their classes.

Then, I would see the other Filipino girls and other foreign students in our language school, Enforex, and give each other the double, and get to class. I had the coolest, craziest and most interesting profesores who made learning Spanish not only challenging and easy at the same time, but also fun and up-to-date. Did you know that Spanish girls never change their surnames and that only one person is supposed to pay when a group of friends go out? My class was made up of one Japanese girl who was so much better in Spanish than I was (but couldn’t pronounce the rrrr’s!), an older guy from Slovakia who just wanted to learn a new language after he retired, a Brazilian boy who was cool and nonchalant because Portuguese was close to Spanish anyway, another Filipina friend whose presence made me feel more comfortable, and a sweet blonde German girl who would always invite me to parties. I looked forward to go to class everyday and was muy excited about what new thing I would learn next.

Classes would last from 9 to 2 pm and siesta would begin. Everything was closed and during that time all of us Filipinos would go back home and have lunch with our host families. I would be insanely hungry by then since I wasn’t used to the eating schedule, but since it was their biggest meal of the day, I was eventually full right away. My host mom always prepared soup, two (note: TWO!) main courses, a lot of bread, and yogurt for dessert. Honestly, the food for me was okay and I guess the weirdest thing I ate was rice and tomato sauce – nothing else. It’s for sure though, that the españoles loved their olive oil because I must have had it in every meal (olive oil is cheap there). My host parents were home during the siesta for their work break so I would talk to them a little bit and get to practice my Spanish before I took a nap.

By 5PM, everything comes back to life. Tiendas would start putting back their abierta (open) signs, people would start filling the streets again, and others would start walking back to work. In my case, I would meet up with the other Filipinos or other friends I made in classes, and we tried out the different cafeterias and restaurantes near the Plaza, went shopping crazy by going to Mango, H&M or Zara and had our daily routine of Spain’s well-known and muy rico chocolate con churros. We saw movies in Spanish and didn’t care if we didn’t understand most of it, just hung out and sat around the Plaza Mayor – the most beautiful part of the city – to watch the people, walked around in the cold of the city to see the sights and just for the sake of it, took hundreds of pictures of anything and everything, and just breathed in the culture and magic of everything that was going on around us.

After having dinner out, going back home to do homework, resting or hanging out with our families again, I would meet up with mis amigas under the famous clock of the Plaza Mayor an hour before midnight. Late at night, high school to university students would go out for a night of ir de marcha (going out) and stay out until the madrugada (wee hours of the morning). Hundreds of people, mostly students, would wait and meet up with their own friends before they went to the bars and discos. Thursday was the official night of going out and everyone, of all shapes, sizes, nationalities, ages, and even genders – go out. No other people party like the Spanish do and they know how to have a good fiesta. I enjoyed every minute of it. It was a good and fun way to meet other students and also to dance to Spanish music. (Bailamos!) With everything that was going on around you, and all the guapos y guapas, you just had to dance. I don’t think I’ve ever danced that much in my entire life! All the bars were next to each other so we would walk from one place to the other and completely forgot about the cold. Who would have thought that the streets could be alive and scattered with young people at 3AM – on a Monday? Friends met up and enjoyed before finally going home and walking through the well-lit and safe streets of Salamanca.

On weekends, we went to school-arranged trips and with that we saw the Aqueducts of Segovia, toured around the magical and caste-like city of Toledo, visited and went in the different museums of Madrid, like the Museo del Prado (my favorite) and the Museo Nacional Centro de Arte Reina Sofia. I was able to see the most famous paintings of Picasso, Dali, Miro, El Greco, and more. We even got to watch a Real Madrid soccer game and saw the most famous futbol players in the world play – Beckham (!!), Ronaldo, Raul, Robinho, etc. Those names may not seem much to you but being the ex-futbol player that I am and futbol being practically a religion in Spain, it means mucho mucho mucho!

I had the BEST time – and I’m sure everyone did too. But I have to say that it was not always the easiest, like everything else. There was definitely a feeling of being overwhelmed in a completely new place, loving and being scared of everything in it, missing and actually not missing home at the same time. Some people got homesick for a couple of days, a couple got intimidated by the language, and one girl even got an allergy and had to go to the clinic to get a shot. I thought that being an exchange student for a year in high school would easily prepare me for everything. But to be a team leader was different. It was daunting in the beginning because I thought about all the responsibilities that I had but I quickly learned that nothing really prepares you to be one. You just do it. I became a team leader by using the skills I learned in life and in my past exchange experience, by sharing what I knew to the others and telling them that what they were going through was completely normal, and by having understanding and a lot of sense of humor, and by giving lots of love and hugs. Being a team leader multiplied my usual growing up during any trip. And that will definitely always be a good thing.

I think the other, and major, thing that I loved best about Spain didn’t actually come from there. It was the group that I was with. For some reason, we instantly bonded and mixed together all our different and crazy personalities. We made for an interesting group – one girl shopped almost everyday, another girl broke a poor German boy’s heart, the only guy with us for sure had a renewed understanding of the female psyche, another girl learned to laugh at herself when she said the wrong thing to a waiter. Being in a loving group like that made it easier to have a better time in a foreign land because there was always someone to lean back on, complain to, and have fun with.

Three weeks may seem like a short time, but I feel that personally and for the other Salamankers (that’s what we call ourselves), we left Spain and came back being a little bit different, more open minded in our perspectives, a lot more thankful for our parents and the things that we have here at home, and a hundredfold richer as persons. We have more than a thousand digital pictures from all of our collections put together and we will never forget what we experienced in Spain. Being there and experiencing everything that happens when you’re an exchange student again, and actually helping the others have that kind of experience too, made me remember that being an exchange student is one of the best things anyone could ever experience. You gain so much more than you can imagine and the effects can last you a lifetime. If I could be an exchange student in every part of the world, I would. I wish I could share what I know now to everyone and I just wish people actually get to experience the same thing.

When we were going in the airport to leave the Philippines, some girls were reluctant to say goodbye and some parents were beginning to cry. It IS hard to let go but deep inside I knew that the same parents would be happy and proud of the same thing. I knew that we were going to have the best time ever. And we did. Muchissimo.


Elaine Abonal is in her senior year in the Ateneo de Manila University in the Philippines, as of 2006.

Elaine Abonal

Activities as a Couple

17th April

He goes out with the boys to have a beer, you go shopping with your friends and your activities together do not exist anymore. Why don’t you try to make a change? Wouldn’t it be nice that after work, you and your boyfriend have relaxing activities to make you feel great, the same you felt at the beginning of your relationship? Here are some tips:

1. Take dance lessons

Dancing is the most elaborated, emotional and beautiful of all forms of art, dancing is that little bit of escape that we all need.

Dancing Waltz, Tango, Flamenco, Samba, and Cha-Cha-Cha is an artistic way to show your nice and sensuous moves. Do not think you will be embarrassed because the trainer will start with easy stuff till you get more and more experienced. Take comfortable shoes with you. Ladies need to leave shoes with high heels at home, at least for the beginning. It is an opportunity for both to make the others envious on the way you dance when you go to parties. It’s a good chance to unwind and make new friends. Take your partner to the nearest dancing club. You won’t regret it.

2. Go swimming

Besides excellent physical condition that this sport offers, you will have numerous occasions to be close to your partner, to be together and have fun. You can organize a championship: who swims faster or underwater. It would be fun. You will be exhausted but relaxed. There are many swimming pool clubs and you can go there anytime of the year.

3. Play Tennis

Have you forgotten about the competition spirit? It’s time to remember it. Have a tennis match and place bets on who’s the winner. You will spend lovely time together, you will get tired but it is worth doing it.

4. In the kitchen

We do not have to think about cooking as a boring activity. Challenge your partner, you will spend quality time, and you can try a new recipe for an exotic dish. In the end you can even invite friends and have a nice meal together. They can even ”evaluate” the product of your activity.

5. A photo contest

Initiate a contest, you choose theme and location, a park, a busy street, in the country. You can make photos of interesting spots in nature. The one who has the nicest photos is the winner.

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Marius Gherghinescu

How Women Can Make Time For Devotions

15th April

If you’re like me, you wish there were just a few more hours in the day. Between running the kids to various practices, games and lessons, being attentive to your marriage, making sure there’s clean clothes in everyone’s closets, conquering at least most of the dust bunnies threatening to take over your home, perhaps working full or part-time and volunteering at church…well, it doesn’t leave much time for anything else – even spending time with God.

But, if you’re like me, you also have a heart for God. You long to dig into the Word and devote yourself to prayer. Your deepest desire is to spend quality time with your Heavenly Father.

But how?

God understands the full lives of women. He understands when you have small children and aren’t able to spend an hour (or even twenty minutes!) at a time with Him. He knows your heart. There will come a day when you are able to spend more time with the God you love. And, no worries! I promise it will be before your last child moves out!

However, it’s because our lives are so busy that we need time with God more than ever. That’s why it’s important to make it a priority to steal splashes of time with Him throughout the day. Those brief moments may just be what we need to deal with the craziness and be able to do everything we women need to do without pulling our hair out (or our kids’ hair!)

Even taking five or ten minutes to read a devotional does wonders. Grab that moment over breakfast, while the kids are napping, in the carpool line or, if you have to, (shhhh) in the bathroom. Here are seven recommended devotional books for women that don’t take much time to read but offer a powerful dose of the Word to help get us through the day.

1. Women of Faith Daily Devotional. This book offers 365 devotionals by some of the world’s funniest women, including Patsy Clairmont, Thelma Wells, Shiela Walsh, Marilyn Meburg, Luci Swindoll, and the late Barbara Johnson. These short devotionals will keep you laughing while you learn.

2. The One Year Book of Devotions for Women on the Go, by Stephen Arterburn and Pam Farrel. This book of brief devotionals will encourage you to meditate on God’s Word daily, even in the midst of your hectic schedule.

3. Ten-Minute Time-Outs for Moms, by Grace Fox. Connect with God during a daily ten-minute timeout, sure to stir your spirit and refresh your soul.

4. Daily Steps for GodChicks, by Holly Wagner. A fun and fresh devotional for today’s modern women with traditional, God-loving hearts.

5. The One-Year Book of Devotions for Moms, by Ellen Banks-Elwell. These devotionals will strengthen and challenge you as you face the busyness of life as a mom.

6. The Official Soccer Mom Devotional, by Lynne Thompson. Soccer, baseball, football, dance, music lessons….this devotional is perfect for the mom always on the go (and in the car).

7. Sister Wit: Devotions for Women, by Jacqueline Jakes. This practical devotion explores four areas of life: struggles and troubles, virtues, encouragement, and inspiration and challenges you to make the most of every situation.

There are many other devotionals geared toward busy women on the market today. Whichever one you choose, the important thing is to get grounded in the Word every day. These moments with God, no matter how brief, will keep you filled with joy and peace amidst your crazy and hectic life as a woman.

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How Children Learn Through Play

13th April

Lessons from books are great, but children learn through play far better than they do in other forms. There are several reasons for this. At the heart of it is their desire to learn. When learning is not so much work but is fun, children are more willing to participate. They want to jump in and have a good time. As a parent, the more that you can teach through play, the more that your child will retain later on. While some skills need to be taught formally, such as math facts and reading, there are still great ways to teach through play.

Children learn through various methods, but often their physical and social world teaches them the most. Even small infants learn this way. Parents can enhance a young child’s learning process by giving them a variety of ways to learn through sight, touch, taste and smell. For infants, play the games that children love, such as peek a boo and other interactions that teach cause and effect. It also teaches them how to interact socially with their families.

As children grow older, they still need stimulation. Remember, kids having fun gives them an added incentive to do the activity you want them to. Pretend play is one of the core elements of the development of imagination. Pack up a truck full of great costumes (you can pick these up very inexpensively after Halloween) and encourage both boys and girls to play. What you will find is that many of the role playing games they play now are direct reflections of the experiences they have had. For example, a child who may be going to daycare for the first time, may practice leaving her baby doll at a pretend daycare. The act is helpful, but the conversations they have of telling the doll that “mommy will be back very soon” will help them later to deal with their fears of being left. Encourage this type of play.

Child’s play through the years changes even more so. During preschool and kindergarten, one of the best ways to teach a child is through stories and pictures. They learn to interact with each other as well as with the outside world. For example, set the stage for a great adventure story. Read them the story during the morning hours. Then, give them a few ideas and let them act out the story in their own way. You can teach many of the fundamentals in this manner, everything from manners to helping those in need.

Other activities to encourage helping children learn through play include:

· Craft projects: they explore their talents and explore texture, dimension, color and shapes

· Dance: They explore their physical bodies and stay physically fit

· Building with blocks: Everything from wooden blocks to Lego’s helps children to learn structure, dimension, balance, and help them to grow their imagination.

· Drawing: Use various types of mediums from paints to pencil to help them to learn numbers, letters, shapes and much more

These activities can incorporate other skills, too. For example, perhaps an art project can center around a specific letter of the alphabet. Do not be elaborate, but do be dramatic.

Kids having fun is something you definitely want to consider for the long term. For example, children who are nine years old and up need to develop great reasoning skills and need to learn to think strategically. They also need to develop good social skills. Great ways for kids having fun through these lessons can be anything from fun science projects to advanced building sets done in teams and even 3-D puzzles. Encourage computer projects and video games as well. Unbelievably, the video game they love to play is teaching them great hand eye coordination (assuming that the content within it is appropriate.)

How children learn through play is really up to you, their parent. Encouraging them to play, pretend, and learn all go hand in hand. The skills most children learn at these early ages are not just their math facts and their ABC’s, but they are the foundations of how to learn, how to interact with other people, and how to explore, reason and strategize. These items will carry on with them throughout their lives.

Ivana Katz

Nurturing and Caring for your Inner Child: How to Heal Emotionally and Master the Art of Self-love

11th April

To begin this process, remember how you looked at the age of three or four years and try to get a clear mental image of yourself at that age. A photograph may be helpful, if you have one.

Your inner child lives in your heart, the emotional center of your body. It is helpful however, to picture your child self outside your body in order to communicate more effectively with him/her. There are several phases to the inner child relationship. The first is the healing of your wounded child of the past. The second stage, which lasts the rest of your life, is nurturing your inner child of the present. This article will address both of these skill levels.

This child is not all that you are. You are an adult who has survived a lifetime of risks and hardships, growing and learning along the way. You have a brilliant mind, which you have used only partially because of the limitations of your parenting and the world you live in. There is much more to you than you know. If you are fortunate enough to have already recognized your greatness, you probably know that you are still not through. The closer you come to knowing who you really are, the more you realize how much you have to learn.


As an adult and inner parent, try making the following statements to your inner child and see what happens:

“I’ve been the kind of parent to you that my parents were to me. I didn’t know any better. Like them, I have abandoned and neglected you at times without meaning to. I’ve treated you as if you weren’t even there because I really didn’t know you were there. I thought that when I grew up, you just went away.

“I realize now that I may have hurt you at times. You are all of my feelings, and I have always thought some of those feelings were bad. So I tried to control you with substances (food, cigarettes, alcohol, drugs, medication, work, sex, love relationships), thinking I could make the feelings that I didn’t like go away. It didn’t work. The feelings just got worse. I am ready to change now and take care of you. I accept you as you are, no matter what you are feeling. Your feelings are my feelings, because you are who I am inside.”

Now become the inner child. Sit on the floor, curl up on the couch or assume any childlike posture that seems to fit what you are feeling. As the inner child, you are only feelings. You don’t think or analyze, you just feel. Try responding to your inner parent with:

“I’m glad you are finally recognizing me. I’ve been waiting for this for a long time. I like what you are saying. It makes me feel better. I’m not completely ready to trust you yet. I need to see some action. I need to be able to count on you throughout each day. I am completely dependent on you. If you don’t love and care for me, no one will. You are all I have.

“When I am hurting or afraid, just hold me and tell me you love me. That’s all I ask. Don’t try to talk me out of my feelings, that’s just who I am. Just love me and tell me that you’ll protect me no matter what and that will help me feel better. I need to be told that you love me often, not just when things go wrong. When I am happy, I need you to smile and laugh and do fun things. I come out through your smile and laughter and playfulness. I also come out when you are loving and creative. I have a lot to offer you, if you will create a safe and healthy life for me. There is more joy and love in me than you have ever known, waiting to come out. Love and joy is who I am, and I am who you are. I’m counting on you. Please remember me.”

You might respond with something like: “You can count on me. I won’t forget you. I will make mistakes, but I will learn to avoid repeating them. I accept you just as you are, no matter what you are feeling. Your feelings are my feelings. I love you unconditionally. You are who I am inside. In loving you, I love myself.”

If you have difficulty with this exercise, write about your experience. This may help you figure out what you need to work on to get closer to the experience of self-love.

Your inner child may be too wounded or frightened for you to make a connection at this time. The concept may still seem foreign to you. If you like the words in this dialogue and you want to feel their depth and meaning, don’t give up. You may want to get some counseling to help you connect with your inner child in a meaningful way.


Once the basic healing work is done with the inner child of the past, you need to learn to take care of yourself day to day by maintaining a connection with your inner child of the present.

Here are some suggestions for self-care and maintaining a connection with your inner child of the present:

Create space and time in your daily schedule to talk to and listen to your inner child. The key to this is imagery. Picture the child sitting beside you, in your lap, or jumping around the room. Just “checking in” with your child self will give you a reading on how you’re doing emotionally. You may find her hiding in a corner, or he might be scared and trembling. You may find as you offer support and understanding to the child, the image will change, giving you feedback on how you’re doing in your self-care. Explore and enjoy your self-discovery!

Take quiet alone time on a regular basis. Ideally 20 minutes to an hour a day, find a private comfortable place where you can relax, meditate and/or pray without interruption. You can incorporate journaling and inspirational reading into this time as well. Always allow at least 15-20 minutes of being still and silent. This opens your inner space to the child, and accesses your spiritual nature. It will also do wonders for the health of your body, mind and spirit. Make this quiet alone time a top priority, and you will bring more of your authentic self to your spouse, your children, your friends and your work.

When your body is showing signs of stress, that’s your inner child saying, “Slow down. You’re not Superman or Superwoman, and you’re neglecting me.” That’s when you practice your skills for relaxing, playing, creating and simply “goofing off.” If you ignore that voice, it will just get louder until you pay attention. An unhappy inner child may try to communicate through a headache, stomach problems, depression or even major illness. When we listen to the subtle messages, we don’t need the “loud” messages of illness and catastrophe.

Systematically and consistently create opportunities to express your feelings openly in a safe environment. Find a support group or a group of friends, and get together regularly for the purpose of keeping the door to your heart open. Twelve step recovery groups, therapy groups, men or women’s groups, book study groups and other forums often provide this venue.

Create opportunities for laughter and fun. If you don’t know how to play, then learn. Do a web search on “laughter and humor” and you will find lots of information on the health benefits of laughter and humor and how to get more into your life. There are conferences and workshops on play and laughter going on all over the country year around.

Be creative. This accesses the magical child in you, and further allows you to become a vessel for the expression of the Creator that lives within you. Take dance lessons, art lessons, or learn to play a musical instrument. Get on the floor or in the dirt with a child and let them show you the creative world they live in. Join them there and feel yourself come alive.

Temporarily or permanently end all relationships in which you are being hurt. Seek help, and only consider re-entering the relationship after both of you have had therapy and you have personally seen significant progress. Even then, proceed cautiously—you have a precious child to protect.

Only risk and commit to relationships in which you are loved. You deserve love, and without it you will not live fully and become the person you were born to be.

Embrace all that you are. Do not reject any aspect of your being. If you have problems, get help. You can have the life you want—and it’s up to you to create it. Finding the good in yourself and the world around you is one of the best ways to connect with and care for your inner child, and become your most amazing self. Become a Goodfinder today!

William DeFoore, Ph.D.

Offbeat Holiday Gift Ideas for Grandparents

9th April

Unsure of what to get your grandparents this holiday? Not the books and the checked ties again. Check out these offbeat and a bit outrageous but nevertheless, thoughtful gift ideas.

The Ultimate Makeover Move

Delight grandma with a trendy, new look. Surprise her by setting up an appointment with a makeover team. Give her the entire works – the face, the hair and the outfit. Check out the transformation and enjoy the smile that lights up the wrinkles on her face. And while grandma is away, let grandpa play! Round up his gang and treat him to a special night out with the boys.

Get Together & Party the Night Away

Throw a 50′s themed party or better still a 50′s themed prom. Ask your grandparents and their friends to dress up like they did in the 50s. You can even rent a couple classic cars from “way back then” for everyone to show up in! Play music from that era, open up some cola and watch your otherwise controlled grandparents transform into noisy, giggling teenagers. Make sure you don’t miss out on the fun – be there as the chaperone!

Lessons that Help Unwind & Relax

How about giving your grandparents those lessons they always wanted to take but never had the time. Try dance lessons; Tango, Waltz, Ballroom or a sample lesson shaking to salsa. Adventure sports offer another option – water sports or maybe rock climbing. And if scuba-diving is not their cup of tea, maybe bowling is more up their alley. Art lessons can make a fun gift too. Your grandma will probably love to try her hand at sculpting, painting or craft making.

Weekend at a quaint inn – A different age & time

Give your grandparents the gift of old world charm. A weekend at a quaint inn would do just that. The charming atmosphere of a country inn and personable service will help them relax and take them to another time and place. The lush scenery, nature strolls, comfortable beds and scrumptious breakfast would make them fall in love all over again!

Gift Senior-Friendly Computer Software

As a Christmas gift for grandparents, you can get computer for seniors software, so they can benefit from easier communication with family and friends. It’s not just easy email for seniors that’ll attract their interest, but also the instant chats with family, regular stock updates, seeing regular pictures of grandchildren, online news, shopping, blogging and other fun activities.



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